Top 5 Outdoor Bachelorette Parties in San Diego

The sun is shining and the smell of summer is in the air..so why not do a non-traditional affair for the bride’s last hurrah?

Here are the top five Bachelorette Party ideas for a bride who likes the outdoors…

1.  A Day on the Waves

Don’t be fooled. The hottest guys are out on the waves.

Pictures by Beach Shoot San Diego

Imagine a day of bonding, laughing and mastering the surfboard. There’s a cool little Women’s Surf School in beautiful La Jolla, CA called Surf Diva that offers a day of surf or paddle board lessons, professional photos on picturesque La Jolla Shores, and a mouth-watering picnic right on the beach after your fun on the waves. All skill levels are welcome and you can request women surf instructors if you like.You can glam it up and also request private cabanas w/private cabana boy serving up delectable chocolates and chilled drinks.

This is a great idea for a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette activity too! Mention BFF and get free party favors for your group…

Afterwards, you can rent a room at the La Jolla Shores hotel right on the beach and jump right into their jacuzzi to rest up before a night on the town. Party bus anyone?

2. Sunset Kayaking

Photo by Beach Shoot San Diego

I would highly recommend the… (Bride’s don’t read this * Spoiler alert* )… ok now that it’s safe.. Message in a Bottle package through Beach Shoot San Diego. They take you out for an unforgettable sunset kayak ride (you don’t need to have experience kayaking.)

They take you through the sea caves (weather permitting) and you get to see amazing wildlife. Then the photographer will strategically toss a message in a bottle onto the waves for the bride to find. The message will be from you and the other bridesmaids, of course, full of tear evoking well wishes. The photographer captures it all on photo and video. It’s a pretty awesome keepsake which can be played at the wedding.

3.  Moonlight Horseback Riding and BBQ Dinner

A day of hiking, camping or moonlight horseback riding may just be up her alley if the bride is stressed out and really wants to get away. Check out Happy Trails San Diego

4. Sports, competitive or teambuilding games

How about a day playing Dodgeball, Sloshball or Kickball or renting tandem bikes? San Diego also has tons of charity events like the San Diego Mud Run or the ROC Race (Ridiculous Obstacle Course-Think WipeOut). Give back to the community while bonding and doing something healthy and fun!

5. Boating, Boating or more Boating

The best part of San Diego is the beautiful ocean. Renting a boat is relatively inexpensive and you don’t need any special license if it’s a small boat. Just a drivers license! We took a boat out on Fourth of July to get a 360 degree view of the fireworks in the San Diego Bay and it was the best fireworks show I have experienced in my life. We each paid about $30 and brought on board some pizza and drinks-the driver of course can’t have any alcohol ;) In Mission Bay you can also rent jet ski’s etc.

http://www.seaforthboatrental.com/

It’s a barbecue, a picnic table, and a boat all in one… it’s the BBQ Donut!

If you want to do it a bit more upscale you can rent a small yacht which includes a personal sushi chef from Sushi on a Roll who can cater or even give you a Sushi cooking class while you enjoy sake or wine. Or you can take a traditional dinner cruise.

The best of the boat experiences has to be renting a private Gondola. They can seat up to 16 passengers and a sunset cruise can include wine, cheese, chocolates and even massages :) Wow!

Mention BFFbridesmaid or contact us to see if we can get you any discounts for any of these bachelorette party ideas!

Weekday Wedding Workshops: Money Saving Tips and WeddingTax Deductions

Our first informational workshop was a night of delicious food, fun games, great info and of course, sushi rolling..

One of our great couples enjoying a sushi bonding experience!Sushi on a Roll graciously hosted our free event for a very small group of brides, grooms and members of the wedding party. It was intimate and we all enjoyed lots of conversation, advice, commiserating and games.

Our guest speaker, Wedding Planner Carmin from carmindesign.com, was her usual bubbly self and gave us awesome tips on how to save money and get tax deductions on wedding expenses. The brides really appreciated the one one one Q + A with her and all the free advice, tips and tricks she gave. She stayed well past our end time to answer all questions and to give one particular couple lots of design advice since she is not only a planner but a florist by trade.

Jeff from Sushi on a Roll and Andy from sdstreeteats.com served up some serious sushi, braised short ribs and more. Jeff offered our workshop attendents 15% off of his already affordable catering service or venue booking. Sushi on a Roll is not a restaurant, but a private event venue which is awesome because there aren’t any restrictions like at a normal restaurant. So, you can have your bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner here and it’s completely private with private parking even. You can customize your menu, bring in a cigar bar and even set up the Wii and/or karaoke for the kids so they can enjoy too.

Bachelor Party? They can even get the “Sushi Models” to serve sushi on.

My friend had her bridesmaid/groomsmen luncheon (a thank you to their bridal party) on their yacht which you can rent along with a sushi chef for a day out on the ocean. They can even do the sushi-cooking class on board for you.

SD Street Eats gourmet food truck gave us great ideas for bringing in a private food truck for bachelor parties, for the very end of weddings when everyone who liquored up needs some food in their bellies before going home. They will pretty much travel anywhere and come at all hours of the night. They customize your menu and can do as casual as street tacos to as gourmet as lobster.

Our big prize winner of the night, Khristina, won a beautiful necklace by our sponsor Cocoon Jewelry.Their Facebook contest ends tomorrow May 15th. The winner will receive a customized set of jewelry in the brides wedding colors for the bridal party and cufflinks for the groomsmen.

Enter at http://www.facebook.com/CocoonJewelry?sk=app_190322544333196

I’m so thankful to our wonderful sponsors and our guest speaker. I had a great time meeting each couple personally and being able to answer all of the questions that have been plaguing them. I cannot recommend Sushi on a Roll enough as a venue. They are such an unknown gem in San Diego.

I’m going to bring my husband there for a sushi rolling class for Father’s Day.. I heard there is a GroupOn for it. Shhh!You didn’t hear that!

In the end.. it’s all about Love

I’ve stepped back a bit from posting and BFFbridesmaid duties in the past few weeks to spend more time with my 3 kids and my husband. Things were getting very off-balance and a very good friend of mine reminded me where my priorities should be and how important it is to make time to make memories, to make sure the family and friends you have know how much you love them and enjoy each day instead of cramming in tasks that ultimately don’t really matter much.

My friend lost his own father and his boss / father figure, Junior Seau in the same month. It was and still is a heavy loss for him.

It made me really think.

Sometimes our day to day lives sweep us away like a great flood of appointments, parties, work, vegging out on the couch, hobbies, sports and we forget to just stop and take account of who and what is around us. We forget to say “I love you” to the dearest ones around us until it is Mother’s day or Christmas. We look ahead towards the future waiting for life to begin when life is already happening all around us.

Especially with wedding planning, I see so many brides get so wrapped up in such small details of the wedding and so stressed out with the bridal party and even their fiancee that they forget that the essence of what they are doing is all… about… love…

Most weddings will not be perfect.

The wedding is only happening if you and your fiancee make it to that day. So be kind and patient and loving to one another.

Bridesmaids, the bride chose you because you are that special.. that important in her life. That is an honor despite whatever little dramas are happening. Never let bridal drama destroy your friendships.

For my friend, today’s reality involves playing over and over in his head his last words and last memories with his loved ones. If, God forbid, the last thing you did or said to a loved one ended up being the very last exchange you had with them. Would you regret your actions/words? Would you be asking yourself if they knew how much you cared about and loved them?

You, unlike my friend, have time to change that.

The Bridesmaids Revolution

I SAY WE TAKE IT BACK

For those who’ve been a bridesmaid before or (gasp) a Maid of Honor, being asked by another bride incites a host of muffled internal groans and shivers accompanied by ill-forgotten memories of the drama they went through before.

Bridesmaid has become a dirty word and I think we need to take it back.

It was an honor that dates back to Roman times when laws required ten witnesses so a marriage could be legal. The bridesmaids and groomsmen dressed identically to the bride and groom to confuse any evil spirits looking to do harm to the happy couple. Nowadays, it has often become a contest for who loves the bride most and a sometimes a heavy burden of being “the bride’s bitch.”

Can being a bridesmaid ever return to its place of honor so that being asked to accompany a girl on her bridal journey can be a fun, bonding experience instead of a possible drain of time, money and patience. Is there anything we can do to make the change? In the words of our president, YES WE CAN…

So follow me as we chant our Bridesmaids Manifesto…

We WILL NOT be the bride’s slave but rather her guide and right-hand gal.

We WILL NOT go broke but rather plan, save and organize so that every penny is managed and spent well.

We WILL NOT shell out hundreds of dollars on a dress we’ll probably never wear again, that we didn’t have any say in and whose color does not become us. Rather, we will let the bride know what our budget is in advance and ask the bride if she can keep us in mind during the process of choosing so that we can all make an adult decision about what we will look like.

We WILL NOT drop everything when we are called out-of-the-blue to run errands and go on appointments with the bride. The bride can schedule in advance and communicate her calendar with me and let me volunteer to be there when I can.

We WILL NOT allow the brides manifesto “But it’s my day!” manipulate us.

We WILL NOT perpetuate the stereotypical cat-fighting women. We will work together, communicate and be direct and honest with the other bridesmaids.

 

We WILL rise to the position of honor that has been bestowed on us by the bride.

We WILL do everything in our power to strengthen and maintain the bonds of friendship between the bridal party.

We WILL shine on her wedding day, but NEVER outshine her.

Bridesmaids of the World … Unite!!

Resources

http://www.marriagemissions.com/wedding-traditions-and-folklore/

Alternative Bridal Show Tomorrow night – The NotWedding

San Diego has bridal shows GALORE

but none of them as unique as the one being held tomorrow night, Tuesday 3/27 at the Balboa Park Air and Space Museum.

Don’t just meet and talk to vendors but watch an entire staged Wedding ceremony and reception so you can actually see the vendors in action in a realistic setting, enjoy a sit-down dinner, and experience the live music from the reception entertainment. What better way to inspire great wedding ideas than to watch a fake wedding where stealing ideas is not only accepted, but encouraged!

Coordinated by one of our preferred wedding planners, Couture Events SD

It’s sure to be an event not to be missed!

Doors open at 5:45 and ceremony begins promptly at 6:30.Tickets are $35.

http://www.thenotwedding.com/about/

Not Maid of Money: The Burden of Being a Bridesmaid

Not Maid of Money: The Burden of Being a Bridesmaid.

Provided by Mint.com

Being a Bridesmaid is not cheap. What do you think about the estimated costs in the image and article? I think the amounts for me were pretty spot on except I spent probably over $1000 on the bachelorette party alone (I was Maid of Honor).

What about for you? How much did you end up spending? What were the biggest expenses and money related drama?