Interesting Wedding customs from around the World: The Korean Squid Facemask

No you’re not imagining things. He is wearing a dried squid on his face.

I’ve been blessed to have taught English internationally and that for the past 9 years I’ve taught at a local San Diego international ESL school. I’m always amazed at the awesome, kirky and sometimes, downright hilarious customs that my students have shared with me over the years.

The Haam ceremony in Korea takes the cake for the best photo ops.

The Groom and his male family, close friends and/or groomsmen get dressed up in their best suits and strap on dried squid masks to their faces. They form a procession to the brides home to announce the grooms intention to marry her through the gift of the ham or gift box with important symbolic items inside like silk and jewelry. The ham or gift box can never touch the floor and must be carried by one of the participants, called the hamjinabi, on their back.

The group would shout merrily and jokingly through the streets to highlight the Groom’s approach, “Buy some Ham” or “Ham for sale.” Some traditions state that money was thrown at their feet in the path of the brides home to encourage them to keep walking

One tradition states that the brides’ family must pay money to the group per step, sing a song for them upon arrival or do a favor for the group members in return for their travel. Then they must be treated to a feast or dinner where the brides’ family will open the ham and examine the gifts.

http://www.asianinfo.org/asianinfo/korea/cel/marriage.htm

Weekday Wedding Workshops: Money Saving Tips and WeddingTax Deductions

Our first informational workshop was a night of delicious food, fun games, great info and of course, sushi rolling..

One of our great couples enjoying a sushi bonding experience!Sushi on a Roll graciously hosted our free event for a very small group of brides, grooms and members of the wedding party. It was intimate and we all enjoyed lots of conversation, advice, commiserating and games.

Our guest speaker, Wedding Planner Carmin from carmindesign.com, was her usual bubbly self and gave us awesome tips on how to save money and get tax deductions on wedding expenses. The brides really appreciated the one one one Q + A with her and all the free advice, tips and tricks she gave. She stayed well past our end time to answer all questions and to give one particular couple lots of design advice since she is not only a planner but a florist by trade.

Jeff from Sushi on a Roll and Andy from sdstreeteats.com served up some serious sushi, braised short ribs and more. Jeff offered our workshop attendents 15% off of his already affordable catering service or venue booking. Sushi on a Roll is not a restaurant, but a private event venue which is awesome because there aren’t any restrictions like at a normal restaurant. So, you can have your bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner here and it’s completely private with private parking even. You can customize your menu, bring in a cigar bar and even set up the Wii and/or karaoke for the kids so they can enjoy too.

Bachelor Party? They can even get the “Sushi Models” to serve sushi on.

My friend had her bridesmaid/groomsmen luncheon (a thank you to their bridal party) on their yacht which you can rent along with a sushi chef for a day out on the ocean. They can even do the sushi-cooking class on board for you.

SD Street Eats gourmet food truck gave us great ideas for bringing in a private food truck for bachelor parties, for the very end of weddings when everyone who liquored up needs some food in their bellies before going home. They will pretty much travel anywhere and come at all hours of the night. They customize your menu and can do as casual as street tacos to as gourmet as lobster.

Our big prize winner of the night, Khristina, won a beautiful necklace by our sponsor Cocoon Jewelry.Their Facebook contest ends tomorrow May 15th. The winner will receive a customized set of jewelry in the brides wedding colors for the bridal party and cufflinks for the groomsmen.

Enter at http://www.facebook.com/CocoonJewelry?sk=app_190322544333196

I’m so thankful to our wonderful sponsors and our guest speaker. I had a great time meeting each couple personally and being able to answer all of the questions that have been plaguing them. I cannot recommend Sushi on a Roll enough as a venue. They are such an unknown gem in San Diego.

I’m going to bring my husband there for a sushi rolling class for Father’s Day.. I heard there is a GroupOn for it. Shhh!You didn’t hear that!

La Jolla “Romance by the Sea” Bridal show this Wednesday, April 25th

http://theabbeycatering.com/blog/2012/04/20/romance-by-the-sea-bridal-show-apr-25-at-lajollacovesuites/“What: 6th Annual “Romance by the Sea”

Where: La Jolla Cove Suites’ Rooftop

When: Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Time: 4:30 – 7:30 pm

RSVP: 858-551-3412

Your invited to one of La Jolla’s most highly anticipated
bridal events,

Jolla Cove Suites’ 6th annual

“Romance by the Sea”

Imagine your special day, see this unique venue staged for a wedding and reception, meet a collection of San Diego’s finest vendors and make your dream a reality.”

http://theabbeycatering.com/blog/2012/04/20/romance-by-the-sea-bridal-show-apr-25-at-lajollacovesuites/

Alternative Bridal Show Tomorrow night – The NotWedding

San Diego has bridal shows GALORE

but none of them as unique as the one being held tomorrow night, Tuesday 3/27 at the Balboa Park Air and Space Museum.

Don’t just meet and talk to vendors but watch an entire staged Wedding ceremony and reception so you can actually see the vendors in action in a realistic setting, enjoy a sit-down dinner, and experience the live music from the reception entertainment. What better way to inspire great wedding ideas than to watch a fake wedding where stealing ideas is not only accepted, but encouraged!

Coordinated by one of our preferred wedding planners, Couture Events SD

It’s sure to be an event not to be missed!

Doors open at 5:45 and ceremony begins promptly at 6:30.Tickets are $35.

http://www.thenotwedding.com/about/

The Biggest Reason You’re Not Married

Your younger sister/cousin/niece, etc. is getting married.

The dread starts to sink in as you think of all the aunts and family friends who will hug you at the wedding reception and then stick the knife in your back by asking,

“Why aren’t YOU married yet?”

I recently had a good friend plead on FB for us to give her some good comebacks to this question. Most people went the funny route and I’m posting the top ones here. Please add to the list if you can think of a witty comeback to the dreaded question,

“So, why aren’t You married yet??”

1. Oh, I’m not but my boyfriend is…

2. My therapist says I’m not ready yet.

3. I’m just lucky.

4. Coz, I already have a dog. That’s enough for me.

5. Didn’t you hear? Marriage is the leading cause for divorce.

Check out this cool article on this topic:

The Biggest Reason You’re Not Married.

WIN A FREE BACHELORETTE PARTY

BFF Bridesmaid is launching our Ultimate Facebook Contest on 2/15/12.

Win a Bachelorette Party on BFFbridesmaid!

 Nominate the bride by submitting your video/photo/story about why the bride (or you- if you are the bride) deserves to win a free Bachelorette party in San Diego.  

 You can make it funny, touching, creative, whatever you want.

Post directly onto our BFFbridesmaid Facebook Fanpage wall.

Use only one post for your nomination.  

Each bride can only be nominated once. 

Ask your friends to vote by hitting the “Like” button on your post.  

The one with the most likes wins!  

Friends must like the BFFbridesmaid fanpage in order to vote.

Voting ends March 20th.

 

Party details will follow but here is some information:

Bachelorette party will be in San Diego, CA

Party details will be at the discretion of BFFbridesmaid and will include party limitations and other conditions.

 

Maximum girls for party- 15

 

Other contest rules may apply.

 

Bachelorette party details and what is to be included will be decided on by BFFbridesmaid.

 

Contest ends on March 20th.

Ideas for Valentines Day Romantic Engagement Proposals

One of the most popular days of the year to propose marriage is coming.

Valentines is just four days away!

If you know anyone who wants to pick this day to ask his girlfriend to walk with him all the rest of his days as his wife, but doesn’t  know how to pop the question, suggest some of these ideas to make her ready to say, “I DO!” Here is a list of great engagement proposals

Top 10 Romantic Wedding proposals: How to ask her to Marry you

1. The flash mob

If you have the time, the vision and the moves, flash mobs are amazing.

Check out this link http://www.godvine.com/One-of-the-Best-Marriage-Proposals-You-Will-Ever-See-623.html.

Nuff said.

2. The unexpected

Take her on a romantic trip to wine country and spend the day wine tasting (but don’t get too hammered!). End the day with a sunset hot-air balloon ride. Right as the sun is setting, tell her that this was the closest you could get her to God, so that He could be witness to the most important moment of your life. Then go down on one knee and ask her to be by your side for the rest of your lives.

3. The low-key

Take her to your favorite upscale Asian restaurant. At the end of the meal, have a waiter bring fortune cookies that you’ve had personalized beforehand. There are several online places that personalize fortune cookies very inexpensively. Have the cookie say something like, “Karen from the moment we met, you have made my life richer and taught me the depth of what love can be like.” Then have another waiter bring a second fortune cookie on a serving tray that continues the message. “I can’t imagine a life without you in it” and then the third waiter will bring a final tray with the engagement ring box on top covered by a white linen napkin so that it’s not visible. On top of the linen is the final fortune cookie that says, “Confucius say: You should say yes to the next man who asks you to marry him, ” then pull off the white linen napkin. Take the engagement ring box, go down on one knee and propose.

4. The surprise public proposal

Arrange a proposal with the management before heading to a local aquarium or zoo. Have a sign posted up in one of the tanks or one of the exhibits. Or rent the advertising spaces they show even before they start the previews at the movie you take her to. Show up at her work with dozens of roses.

5. The pampered princess

Send her on a day of pampering for her “Christmas” present. Tell her you have the whole day arranged for her to relax and concentrate on a day of beauty. Have a limo pick her up from her home, pay for a day of massages, sea salt scrubs, aromatherapy, manicures and pedicures. Then send her shopping to pick out an outfit for your dinner date this evening. There is a place in San Diego called Pretty Is where they give you a makeup and hair glam session and then a personal stylist even helps her pick out an outfit to rent very inexpensively for the weekend. Have the limo take her to a restaurant with a great view. When you pop the question, tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life making sure she is treated like the princess she is and that you want her to feel as special as she did today, all the days of her life.

6. The Scavenger Hunt

Have a limo, pedicab or carriage pick her up unexpectedly from work or school. Take her on a short ride around the neighborhood with the ultimate destination being a really beautiful locale. At every stoplight, have either one of her friends or yours waiting with two roses. When she gets to the last two roses, you will be there waiting in a tux, an armful of roses and an engagement ring. Or you can send her around getting clues until her last clue leads her to you in a tux, an armful of roses and an engagement ring.

7. For the art lover

Contact a local gallery and see if they’ll help you out. Commission a painting of the two of you together, or the two of you as a family with children. Have them hang it in an inconspicuous place in the gallery among all the other art. Take a detour through this gallery as you’re walking home from dinner and when she notices the painting. Tell her it’s your vision of complete happiness, go down on one knee, and ask her to make this vision a reality by being your wife.

8. The out-of-character proposal

Take singing lessons or dance lessons and then blow her away by a big performance with your proposal at the end. Tell her she inspires you to become a better you, that she gives you courage to try new things and that she gives you hope for a beautiful future.

9. Right out of the movies proposal

Find out what her favorite love story or scene from a movie and reenact it. Is it “An Officer and a Gentlemen?” Then show up in an officers uniform and sweep her off her feet. Is her favorite part of a movie the end of “Dirty Dancing?” Hire some professional ballroom dancers, take some lessons yourself and reenact the scene where he dances with Baby at the end of the movie.

10. Venice adventure

Take her on a romantic sunset cruise on a Gondola Venetian style. They have these in Long Beach and San Diego. The combination of ocean, views, singing gondolier, cozy blanket, champagne and chocolate covered strawberries make any type of proposal irresistible. Then have her friends and family waiting on the dock when you pull back in with balloons and champagne screaming “Congratulations!”

Think you have a better idea? Leave a comment.. or tell us about a great one you’ve heard about..

Choosing a Bridesmaid dress for a Plus-Sized woman

How to Choose a Bridesmaids dress for a Plus-Sized Woman

Bridesmaids and Maid of Honor want to look (almost) as beautiful as the bride on the wedding day. Check out these 5 tips for how to pick out dresses that will flatter all body types.

1. Choose A line or empire waist dresses

2. Keep in mind that many plus size women don’t feel comfortable showing their legs and shoulders/arms. They may feel more comfortable with longer dresses and dresses with straps or sleeves. You can also throw in a shawl or pashmina to add a little cover to a strapless dress.

3. Darker colors help to slim the body

4. Choose flowy fabrics, satin is very unforgiving.

5. Ask the bride if she’ll allow for variety. Every bridesmaid will have a dress type that flatters her. As long as the length, color and overall style are the same, you can get away with small differences in dress. For example, more of a sleeve on one dress, an A-line on one dress… The most important thing is that everyone is comfortable in the dresses!