Not Maid of Money: The Burden of Being a Bridesmaid

Not Maid of Money: The Burden of Being a Bridesmaid.

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Being a Bridesmaid is not cheap. What do you think about the estimated costs in the image and article? I think the amounts for me were pretty spot on except I spent probably over $1000 on the bachelorette party alone (I was Maid of Honor).

What about for you? How much did you end up spending? What were the biggest expenses and money related drama?

10 tips for getting the most out of the SD Bridal Bazaar

The San Diego Bridal Bazaar is just ONE week away!

Here are some useful tips for navigating the largest bridal expo in San Diego.

1)Get discount tickets at http://www.bridalbazaar.com or on their facebook page (buy 1, get 1 free). Remember to bring $10 for parking under the convention center.

2) Bring your support group! Members of your bridal party and female family members and friends work best. Decide if you want to bring your groom because it can be very stressful and overwhelming for the guys. Make sure everyone has cell phones, each others phone numbers and cameras to take pictures of wedding ideas for you.

3) Eat a little beforehand as there is only a small snackbar inside. Leave space though for all the cake and food samples that you’ll be able to try at the Bridal Bazaar. The booth next to BFFbridesmaid (booth#107) is giving away samples of delicious gourment popcorn and homemade cold stone ice cream! Bring a bottle of water with you as it can get expensive buying onsite.

4) Wear comfortable shoes and bring a backpack for all the promotional material you’ll receive. Bring color swatches if you’ve already picked out your wedding colors

5) Make a plan. Check http://www.bridalbazaar.com for the map and decide your plan of attack. Best is to go aisle by aisle starting with aisle #100 and working your way towards the fashion show area. You can also use your friends to fan out and then meet back up to see if there were any you wanted to revisit together. Plan out what questions you want to ask. Make a checklist for the different types of vendors that you still need and make sure you find at least two of each so you can comparison shop.

6) Schedule in the fashion show. There will be three fashion shows: 11:30am, 1:00pm, 2:45pm. Make sure you stay until the end when they throw out prizes into the audience. My best friend won a free engagement photography session. BFFbridesmaid will be giving away a free Bridesmaid Bootcamp for you and 3 friends!

7) If you already have your gown and bridal party clothing, take the opportunity to visit the most popular or crowded vendors during the fashion shows as it will make their booths a lot less crowded.

8) Bring your business cards or pre printed labels with your contact info on them. Sign up for as many drawings and prizes as you can. A friend of mine won a free honeymoon!

9) You won’t remember all the vendors you see and meet so take notes on flyers and promotional materials that you find. Write down if they have any special Bridal Bazaar offers. Many vendors give special discounts if you book at the Bridal Bazaar!

10) Relax, have fun and DO NOT get overwhelmed. There will be 320 vendors there but remember, you don’t need to get everything you see! You are there to get ideas and most importantly enjoy this first step of your bridal journey…

Wedding Trends: Bridesmaids Proposals

Let’s face it. Proposals of any kind mean more to women than they do to men.

That’s why when you are asking a question as important as this, why wouldn’t you spend a little extra time in making it special and memorable.

After all, there are few times in your life when you can shine a spotlight on the female friends who’ve had your back through thick and thin and ups and downs.

Being a bridesmaid and especially a Maid of Honor takes a lot of extra work, time and money. And often people don’t really realize how much work it takes and it can often go unappreciated.

That’s why a bride should show her appreciation for her friendship from the very start and do it through a bridesmaid proposal.

A few ways to do it are:

1. Send a card:

http://pinterest.com/pin/132574782750322157/ Pinned by Catie Martinhttp://www.thesweetestoccasion.com/2010/02/diy-will-you-be-my-bridesmaid-cards/

2. Send your friends on a brief scavenger hunt. Involve champagne, food and fun!

3. Make a sweet treat!

http://www.simply southerngirl.com/2011/07/will-you-be-my-bridesmaid.html

4. Send her a special “Care” package

5. Send a decadent dessert..

6. Prepare them for their big “I Do”

7. “Pop” the question, then pop the champagne!

8. Send an edible bouquet

9. Make it public

Buy advertising space at a local movie theater. Invite your girlfriends to the movies with you and show up early enough to be sitting in the theater with all your popcorn and drinks already. Have the theater show your words onscreen before the movie starts.

                                http://www.screenvis.com/slideshow.htm

10. Have you seen Facebook Timeline?

Create something like this, only about your timeline as friends, complete with pictures of you and your friend, places you’ve been, funny stories or memories and even interviews of people who know you and your friend (2), end the short video with “Will you be my bridesmaid?”

Will you be my Bridesmaid?

Found a great Idea to propose to your bridesmaids on

Wedding Bee, a great site for all things wedding.

Personalized cards have a card highlighting why the bride chose her, what her expectations are, what the duties are and other useful info.

Materials you’ll need

Join two red envelopes end to end connecting at the flap. Cover the flap with the ornamental black and white paper. 

Find the full description at

http://diy.weddingbee.com/topic/will-you-be-my-bridesmaid-cards-1

The Bridesmaid Misunderstanding

While sitting around waiting for presents to be opened on Christmas day, the subject of weddings inevitably came up and as soon as I mentioned the word “Maid of Honor,” my cousin grimaced in the most tortured way.

When I asked her, she said that to this day, almost four years after the wedding, she was still not talking to the bride. She said that being her Maid of Honor had torn their relationship apart. As we discussed this, each person in the circle brought up the numerous instances that they knew about of friendships biting the dust in the wake of pre-marital event planning. Even my brother said that most of his female friends that were in the bridal party for various weddings said that they were still upset with someone in the bridal party or with the bride herself.

The next day at my in-laws home, I broached the same subject to a group that had in that year thrown three weddings for two family members and a friend. Everyone unanimously agreed that the stress of planning such a big event had put a strain on many of their friendships and relationships. Most of them said that they never wanted to be a bridesmaid or Maid of Honor again.

This is so sad. It should be a privilege and honor. Since when did being a bridesmaid become a divisive and drama-filled position? Why should something that should be pulling people together, be so successful at driving them apart?

I have collected their thoughts and now I’d like yours. What is making being a bridesmaid such a drag? Why are people hiding out, hoping that their friend will not ask them to be a bridesmaid?