The Bridesmaid Misunderstanding

While sitting around waiting for presents to be opened on Christmas day, the subject of weddings inevitably came up and as soon as I mentioned the word “Maid of Honor,” my cousin grimaced in the most tortured way.

When I asked her, she said that to this day, almost four years after the wedding, she was still not talking to the bride. She said that being her Maid of Honor had torn their relationship apart. As we discussed this, each person in the circle brought up the numerous instances that they knew about of friendships biting the dust in the wake of pre-marital event planning. Even my brother said that most of his female friends that were in the bridal party for various weddings said that they were still upset with someone in the bridal party or with the bride herself.

The next day at my in-laws home, I broached the same subject to a group that had in that year thrown three weddings for two family members and a friend. Everyone unanimously agreed that the stress of planning such a big event had put a strain on many of their friendships and relationships. Most of them said that they never wanted to be a bridesmaid or Maid of Honor again.

This is so sad. It should be a privilege and honor. Since when did being a bridesmaid become a divisive and drama-filled position? Why should something that should be pulling people together, be so successful at driving them apart?

I have collected their thoughts and now I’d like yours. What is making being a bridesmaid such a drag? Why are people hiding out, hoping that their friend will not ask them to be a bridesmaid?